This piece is based on a sermon given at Congregation B’nai Shalom last Shabbat.
Category: community
Each year, our wonderful colleague Rabbi Phyllis Sommer, puts forth a daily theme for the Jewish month of Elul – the four weeks leading up to Rosh Hashanah. There are many others who are participating in #BlogElul with quotes, images, and thought pieces. It is wonderful to read multiple interpretations of the daily theme by different writers on their blogs and via their tweets.
This year, I will also be blogging through Elul, but I’m going to be departing from the common themes of the #BlogElul project. It is a little chutzpadik on my part, but I’ll be continuing to label my postings with the #BlogElul moniker to connect with the larger community who is engaged in reflection during this preparatory month. Traveling with my own congregation, connecting with community, and specifically relationship-building between congregants, is our larger theme for this coming High Holyday season and beyond.
I’ll explain more in a just a moment. But first, I invite you to take a few minutes to watch this wonderful, heart-warming video to set the scene:
And here are some excerpts from the message I shared with my congregation on the 1st day of Elul, to launch our own ‘Take a Seat, Make a Friend’ experience over the coming 7 weeks and beyond:
Four people, sitting in kayaks in the middle of a lake, strike up a conversation. It is not a hypothetical – it is what happened when two of the families who came to our Summer picnic at Hopkinton State Park just a few weeks ago met. They discovered that they have a great deal in common. Lesley and David learned that they’d grown up in the same town, and even belonged to the same temple. David and Jim learned that they used to work at the same company, and David has done business with Jim’s new boss. Jim and Lori discovered that they were both Industrial Engineers by training. But, as Lesley put it, more than the specifics, it was the overall sense of connection that was important – it created a warmth in their hearts and a feeling of being ‘home’. Just as our teens speak about Chai School being a place where a sense of common identity is felt by how friends just ‘get each other’, so that sense of connection is something that we all deeply hope to find in community.
This is what happens when you take a seat and begin to talk. It can happen on a kayak, in a ball pit, at a coffee table, at an Oneg, and anywhere that two people begin a conversation that scratches beneath the surface.
We all yearn for that kind of connection. And we want Congregation B’nai Shalom to be the kind of community where you can find it. This year we will be especially focusing our energies on creating the kind of gatherings and opportunities that will enable more of us to have those meaningful conversations and deepen relationships among the members of our congregation.
There will be many opportunities to experience this during the High Holyday season. However, there is no time to start like the present. While the core work of relationship building happens in face-to-face interaction, the next four weeks – the Jewish month of Elul – is traditionally a time of preparation. During this month, I will be posting inspirational quotes and videos on themes of connection and relationship, along with questions on our Facebook page (‘like’ the page to receive the feed on your wall). If you are not a Facebook user, you will find the same reflections on my blog (where you can also sign up to receive new postings in your email inbox). I invite you to engage, comment, and share when you can. Our online sharing and interactions with each other’s comments will enable us all to get to know each other a little more. If you prefer, you can choose to share anonymously on the blog and, if you wish to do so on Facebook, send me your comment and we will post as ‘CBS’ with your thoughts.
In addition, I am inviting congregants to contemplate some of the questions below and send me short responses in the coming weeks. I will weave these responses into our High Holyday services this year and, in this way, we will co-create our liturgy together, getting to know each other a little more deeply in the process.
- Share something on your bucket list? Why this?
- Who or what inspires you?
- What is one experience that changed your life?
- What keeps you up at night?
- What do you have faith in?
- What is most precious to you?
- Who do you miss? How did they impact your life?
So… let the conversations begin.
This sermon was delivered on Shabbat, June 1st, as a reflection on serving Congregation B’nai Israel for the past six years. I will be moving on to Congregation B’nai Shalom in Westborough, MA, beginning July 1st. I will continue to blog at this address.
Last night I came home from Congregation B’nai Israel after a long a day uplifted and inspired. The inspiration was sparked, in large part, by the last thing I saw before leaving the building. The Board of BIFTY, our Temple Youth Group, had gathered together for an evening of preparation work. On the surface, mundane and repetitive tasks were the order of the evening – one group were busy stapling flyers and envelopes onto 800 paper bags. Another group was stuffing envelopes. So what was so inspiring?
First, the room was full – almost every single member of the board was present, from Freshmen Reps through to the Juniors who are our current leaders. School has just got up and running, and here they were giving of their time to the hard work that goes on behind the scenes of successful programming and Youth group activity.
Second, the work they were doing, beyond bringing them together to connect with each other, represented the start of a chain, the ends of which we will never know entirely or personally. The bags they were preparing are bags that they will hand out on Rosh Hashanah to all of our congregants. Our congregants will bring them back filled with groceries on Yom Kippur, and our Youth Group will empty them into our Connecticut Food Bank Truck and recycle the bags. What was work, but also shmooze time, and youth group program planning time, will spin off from that one hour last night to hundreds of people receiving food to supplement their family meals in a matter of weeks. Our youth, through this simple act, will generate a response from hundreds in our congregation, helping them all do something small to make a difference in the lives of hundreds more.
BIFTY loading the CT Food Bank Truck on Yom Kippur last year |
The other mailing they were preparing is being sent to every 9th through 12th grader connected to our congregation, inviting them to be a part of this incredible youth group. Again, in the busy and hectic worlds of our teenagers, I realize that something that might seem so small is in fact huge. I witnessed the enormous pleasure of members of the board arriving and reconnecting with each other after the Summer, and their enthusiasm to share the experience with others – with weekly programs, regional NFTY NE events (excitement is building for the Levi Leap annual dance on October 3rd), social action activities, and more. The sense of identity, belonging, and leadership that builds from the social community that our teens create for themselves will spin out to manifest in ways still unknowable, likely to impact the rest of their lives.
Walking into our Youth lounge last night, I left inspired because what I witnessed was an example of lives lived in the context of community. Perhaps especially inspired because these teenagers instinctively ‘get it’, or certainly recognize the added meaning it brings to their lives and are willing to exert the effort that it takes to create their own community and make a difference in the lives of others.
As we reflect on our day-to-day lives, the ways in which we exert energy, the communities we are a part of, the ways we actively contribute to them, and the ways in which the small acts we do in these contexts spin out to impact the lives of so many others, known and unknown, let the youth leadership of BIFTY inspire us all. We should never underestimate the power of our actions, and our inactions, to shape the communities and the society of which we are a part.
Shabbat Shalom
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz
Last night our S’lichot program and service, held jointly with Beth El of Fairfield and B’nai Torah of Trumbull, proved to be a very powerful experience for all involved. The first part of the evening consisted of a staged reading of Merle Feld’s play ‘The Gates Are Closing’. More on that later in the week – it is such a rich and powerful piece that it needs its own blog entry. The depth of reflection and sharing from members of our joint community following the reading was as much a part of the experience as the play itself. As one of our colleagues, Rabbi Dan Satlow reflected that, while he may tell his community during the High Holydays that others at nearby synagogues are reciting the same prayers as they are, by coming together and sharing these reflections, and praying together, we felt the reality of that commonality and the partnership of Jewish community extended beyond congregational boundaries as experienced rather than abstract.
The service itself was also a reflection of multiple voices and styles, seamlessly woven together from the contributions of 4 rabbis, 2 cantors and 1 rabbinical student. It was remarkable because there was almost no advance planning involved in this part, yet the earlier evening program had really opened up the energy and spirit of S’lichot such that each leader could tap into that Source, and the whole that emerged felt like some of the most powerful praying we had all experienced in a while.
Beyond the specifics of the prayers, the melodies, the play, the discussion, bringing three communities together, blending our approaches and contributions, felt in and of itself like the holiest of vehicles on which we could be carried from S’lichot into this week leading up to Rosh Hashanah.
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz